Don't return insult for insult

Tom and I read from A Year with the Church Fathers at lunch time. Today he had to take a phone call and I picked up the book and idly flipped it open. Considering the Father Corapi kerfluffle and a conversation in my comments boxes, the page I read could hardly have been more timely. Certainly this is good advice for any of us to keep in mind. If we all behaved as St. Ambrose suggests  how much more likely would it be that God could get our attention and counsel us in the silence of our hearts?

Don't return insult for insult

The devil tempts us to snap back when someone insults us, says St. Ambrose.
Or, often enough, the devil doesn't have to do it, because someone else is willing
to whisper in our ears. But we will always come out on top if we keep cool
and silent.

So, then, you should also guard your humility. But if you are unwilling to appear too humble, you think like this, saying to yourself, "Am I supposed to let this man despise me, and say such things to my face against me, as though I could not open my mouth in front of him? Why should I not also say something to grieve him? Am I supposed to let him do me wrong as though I were not a man, and as though I could not avenge myself? Is he to bring charges against me as though I could not bring together worse ones against him?

Whoever speaks like this is not gentle and humble, not is he without temptation. The tempter stirs him up, and himself puts such thoughts in his heart. Quite often, too, the evil spirit employs another person, and gets him to say such things to him; but you should set your foot firm on the rock. Even if a slave is abusing him, let the just man be silent, and if a weak man speak insults, let him be silent, and if a poor man should make accusations, let him not answer. These are the weapons of the just man, so that he may conquer by giving way, as those skilled in throwing the javelin win by giving way, and in flight wound their pursuers with harder blows.

St. Ambrose, On the Duties of the Clergy, 1.5

In God's Presence, Consider...
Do I listen when other people tell me what they would do if someone said that to them?
Or do I have the strength to remember what Christ would do?

Closing Prayer
Father, fill me with your Spirit, and guide me to return good for any evil done me.