I already was feeling this, pondering Jacob's theft of the birthright while knowing that at the end of their "twin" saga it is Esau who welcomes his brother home generously. Then today I read how Jacob went off to find a wife and saw that little insertion of Esau overhearing his mother's dislike of Hittite (or something) wives and how he went and got a wife from the tribe of Abraham. Darn it. Just made me feel worse.
It also made me think about how Jacob twists and turns and finagles everything ... and most probably with no need as God had already promised he would be the covenant holder (for lack of remembering what term is used). Makes me think of the shenanigans our family had to go through when Dad was dying ... with accepting God, turning away from atheism. And so much more besides. Same thing. God did it in the end, but so much more difficult for everyone ...
I shared the above thoughts with a wise friend who responded, in part:
God does not always elect the pure of heart. Jacob struggles with God and is changed and wounded in the process and gives his name Israel to the people/us I think for that reason.Ouch. But so true. Such tends to be our human nature and our blindness makes us have to realize it again and again, just as I do when reading about Esau.